Actor and model Emily Ratajkowski recently posted to Instagram describing her newborn child as a “beautiful boy.”
The description of her newborn baby boy is quite shocking given back in October, the Gone Girl actress made clear she would let her child choose their gender at the age of 18.
In an article Ratajkowski wrote for Vogue, she definitively declared, “WHEN MY HUSBAND AND I tell friends that I’m pregnant, their first question after “Congratulations” is almost always “Do you know what you want?” We like to respond that we won’t know the gender until our child is 18 and that they’ll let us know then.”
She went on to write, “There is a truth to our line, though, one that hints at possibilities that are much more complex than whatever genitalia our child might be born with: the truth that we ultimately have no idea who—rather than what—is growing inside my belly.”
“Who will this person be? What kind of person will we become parents to? How will they change our lives and who we are? This is a wondrous and terrifying concept, one that renders us both helpless and humbled,” she continued.
Ratajkowski would add, “I like the idea of forcing as few gender stereotypes on my child as possible. But no matter how progressive I may hope to be, I understand the desire to know the gender of our fetus; it feels like the first real opportunity to glimpse who they might be.”
The actress stated, “As my body changes in bizarre and unfamiliar ways, it’s comforting to obtain any information that might make what’s coming feel more real.”
Later in the piece she would describe a number of comments she received from friends and would react to them writing, “I don’t necessarily fault anyone for these generalizations—a lot of our life experiences are gendered, and it would be dishonest to try to deny the reality of many of them.”
She continued, “But I don’t like that we force gender-based preconceptions onto people, let alone babies. I want to be a parent who allows my child to show themself to me.”
“And yet I realize that while I may hope my child can determine their own place in the world, they will, no matter what, be faced with the undeniable constraints and constructions of gender before they can speak or, hell, even be born,” Ratajkowski added.
The actress would also indicate in the article she was “scared of having a son.”
She explained, “I’ve known far too many white men who move through the world unaware of their privilege, and I’ve been traumatized by many of my experiences with them.”
She went on, “And boys too; it’s shocking to realize how early young boys gain a sense of entitlement—to girls’ bodies and to the world in general. I’m not scared of raising a “bad guy,” as many of the men I’ve known who abuse their power do so unintentionally. But I’m terrified of inadvertently cultivating the carelessness and the lack of awareness that are so convenient for men.”
The actress and model then questioned, “It feels much more daunting to create an understanding of privilege in a child than to teach simple black-and-white morality. How do I raise a child who learns to like themself while also teaching them about their position of power in the world?”
In a previous Instagram post Ratajkowski revealed the name of her “beautiful boy” is Sylvester Apollo Bear and that they are calling him Sly. He was born on March 8, 2021.
She described the day of his birth as “the most surreal, beautiful, and love-filled morning of my life.”
What do you make of the fact that Ratajkowski is calling her son “beautiful boy” after previously claiming she would him choose his own gender.